My Thoughts on Love

Have you ever met a person and instantly knew that they were the person you were going to end up marrying? And I don’t mean the way where you sit in a room and you look at everyone and wonder if it is them. I mean the kind where it catches you off guard and you cannot doubt the feelings. It is like a voice in your head told you that he or she will be the one you will spend the rest of your life with and it will be the greatest journey you will ever embark. And then you wonder where that thought came from because it most certainly didn’t come from you but you cannot deny you heard it.

Then you get excited because you finally found true love and life is wonderful and amazing. You are on cloud nine and there is no way of getting off of it and you don’t want to. You want to stay on that cloud forever. You feel like finding this person is the best thing that has ever happened to you and things will only get better. You start planning your future around this person. Everything is falling into place.

But then you fall off that cloud. You crash. You feel like you have broken every bone in your heart. Your body is just fine yet you have never experienced this much pain in your life. It is unbearable. You want to die. In fact, you feel dead. Life cannot go on. I mean how can it when you were supposed to spend it with that one person and now they have taken themselves out of the picture, well, not completely. They say they still want to be friends. You just got friend zoned. They pretty much took a gun and shot you in the heart. And there is virtually no way of getting out of it and there is no point in being friends. I don’t care how mature you are, being friend zoned bites. It is a constant reminder that you are in love with him or her and he or she doesn’t reciprocate the same feelings.

You feel like you will never find love, especially not after them because you were pretty much told that they were "the one". And, well, there can only be one "the one". If there were two or three and it wouldn’t be called “the one”.

So you do your best to move on. What else can you do? There are plenty of things you can do, actually. You can mope around in your pajamas eating ice cream. You can convince that person to change their mind. You can write a vindictive song about them. Or you can accept their decision and continue on with your life as they continue on with theirs. Life does go on even if it feels like it won’t.

Then, someday, a new person will come into your life. You will feel an attraction. Most likely, if you are like me, you will be hesitant; it is only natural. If you gained any wisdom from your previous relationship it is not to rush into it too quickly. After all, this could be the one (since, clearly, the last person wasn’t) and you don’t want to ruin it or it might not be. And that is okay. Enjoy the ride. Live in the moment. Don’t worry if you will ever find “the one”.

            Chances are they are going through the same things.And when you, two, do meet you will appreciate everything you had to go through. And when you do find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, it will be wonderful and amazing. It will also be difficult and prove to be challenging. Your life will be forever changed. And, suddenly, you can’t imagine spending the rest of your life with any other person. You, simply, cannot be happier with any other person. And the best part of it all is that they feel the same way too.